Anon asks:
can you anon this? i know this doesn’t really fit on your blog & stuff, but i’m asking bc you’re really smart and i trust what you have to say. i’m on the road to learning to love myself. how long does it generally take? it’s been like 3 days and i feel absolutely amazing, my progress is incredible. i was told it would be 6 months to a year possibly, but i feel in my bones that it won’t be that long. i truly feel that it could only take about a month, if that. i saw my therapist for the second time yesterday, and he said i only need to see him 2 or 3 more times. is this normal? am i going too fast? it feels so whirlwind but at the same time i feel right. also do i always have to be blissfully happy about it? bc most of the time lately i am, but sometimes i come down to a sort of neutral contentment, kind of? is that normal or is it a sign that i’m not actually where i think i am?

You know, this type of question is actually totally in my wheelhouse, both for personal reasons and because a lot of my educator training is in line with what you’re asking.  I have lived with clinical depression for over 15 years.  I am in remission now, a result of some intensely challenging breakthroughs three years ago. 
I can tell you that learning to love yourself is a LIFELONG process.  You will ALWAYS be working to expand on your own capacity for self-love, self-forgiveness, and self-respect.  The struggles, pain, and challenges that have been caused by your lack of self love in the past may rear their ugly heads once again in the future, but you will be a different person then, with different and new tools and resources for dealing with them.  There is no clear timeline for how long it takes to actually love yourself.  That’s like saying “How long until I’m done learning?”  Humans are constantly in a state of growth and evolution.  For some people, it is fast and constant.  For others, it is slow or seemingly stagnant.  The only thing that will really help you in this process is making an effort to constantly be moving forward, and not stagnating.  Seeing a therapist, like you are, will help.  Just keep listening to your soul and hearing what it says it needs.  And remember:  loving and having compassion for yourself goes hand in hand with loving and having compassion for others, so as you work to love and respect yourself, extend that to every person you meet.  Practice empathy.  Practice gratitude.  Practice kindness.  This will be a lifelong process, but you are already on a great path and you don’t need to worry about going too fast or slow or regressing, because you are human.

Anon asks:

can you anon this? i know this doesn’t really fit on your blog & stuff, but i’m asking bc you’re really smart and i trust what you have to say. i’m on the road to learning to love myself. how long does it generally take? it’s been like 3 days and i feel absolutely amazing, my progress is incredible. i was told it would be 6 months to a year possibly, but i feel in my bones that it won’t be that long. i truly feel that it could only take about a month, if that. i saw my therapist for the second time yesterday, and he said i only need to see him 2 or 3 more times. is this normal? am i going too fast? it feels so whirlwind but at the same time i feel right. also do i always have to be blissfully happy about it? bc most of the time lately i am, but sometimes i come down to a sort of neutral contentment, kind of? is that normal or is it a sign that i’m not actually where i think i am?

You know, this type of question is actually totally in my wheelhouse, both for personal reasons and because a lot of my educator training is in line with what you’re asking.  I have lived with clinical depression for over 15 years.  I am in remission now, a result of some intensely challenging breakthroughs three years ago. 

I can tell you that learning to love yourself is a LIFELONG process.  You will ALWAYS be working to expand on your own capacity for self-love, self-forgiveness, and self-respect.  The struggles, pain, and challenges that have been caused by your lack of self love in the past may rear their ugly heads once again in the future, but you will be a different person then, with different and new tools and resources for dealing with them.  There is no clear timeline for how long it takes to actually love yourself.  That’s like saying “How long until I’m done learning?”  Humans are constantly in a state of growth and evolution.  For some people, it is fast and constant.  For others, it is slow or seemingly stagnant.  The only thing that will really help you in this process is making an effort to constantly be moving forward, and not stagnating.  Seeing a therapist, like you are, will help.  Just keep listening to your soul and hearing what it says it needs.  And remember:  loving and having compassion for yourself goes hand in hand with loving and having compassion for others, so as you work to love and respect yourself, extend that to every person you meet.  Practice empathy.  Practice gratitude.  Practice kindness.  This will be a lifelong process, but you are already on a great path and you don’t need to worry about going too fast or slow or regressing, because you are human.

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