Do you need to have an experience of something to be triggered by it? I'm asking because a friend of mine is sent into massive panic attacks, crying, shaking and is really scared by mentions/actions of domestic abuse, even if it hasn't happened to her. Is it wrong for her to call it a trigger?

Not everyone agrees with me on this, but I don’t think you have to have experienced something to be triggered by it and have a strong emotional reaction to it.  In my opinion, it’s the reaction that makes it a trigger, not the person’s history (although their history and experiences can obviously have a huge amount to do with it and in many cases are the cause for the trigger in the first place.  I just don’t think it’s inherent.)  I’m of the belief that experiences, emotions, and especially pain can be inherited, so maybe somewhere in her family history, there was some form of domestic abuse that your friend is not even aware of but that causes these reactions in her.  But whether that’s true or not doesn’t negate the fact that her feelings and fears are valid, even if she’s never been a domestic abuse victim.  Hope this helps.

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  10. dazebras said: Also things may have happened in their early childhood that they’ve suppressed memories of - as my brother did - so they may be triggered by something without knowing why.
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  18. hypatiaterran said: I definitely don’t think you have to experience something to be triggered by it. Perhaps the friend is empathetic? Or maybe she saw something but just doesn’t actively remember it. Who knows. But her feelings are valid.